Emotion is not the problem, Coping with emotion is the problem.

• We generally think that emotion is the problem. When we have this preception, we will naturally judge that emotion is inherently bad and become dichotomy, that is, fall into the polarity of good and bad, right and wrong; in this way, if so, when we have emotion or the other person has emotion, we will feel that we are wrong and should not have emotion. We should suppress emotion and store them up, otherwise it will be bad.

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• However, the more we think about this, the harder it will be for us. The more difficult it will be to communicate between people, the stronger the feeling of not being understood, and the more serious the sense of alienation in interpersonal relationship. Satir Family Therapy in Counseling reminds: "Problem Is Not The Problem, Coping Problem Is The Problem", that is to say: emotion is not the problem, coping with emotion is the problem. In fact, emotion is not a problem, how to deal with emotion, manage emotion, and the mode of coping with emotion are the issues. Therefore, when you have emotion, don't say: I have problem, and when the other person has emotion, don't say: You have problem.

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Reflection and questions:

• - How do you usually view "emotion"?
• - If people around you have "emotion", how do you generally react? (Are there any difference in how do you react to your spouse, children, parents, brothers, sisters, colleagues and friends? When you notice the difference, what will you feel, think and do?)

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